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How to Criticize while Maintaining Humility

I engaged a Christian leader on Twitter the other day.

He had sent out a tweet which ridiculed an article in Time Magazine. The Time article was bad. Really bad. But something about this man’s response made me uneasy.

How To Give a Perfect Answer Pt. 2

“Don’t Make It Personal”

Whoever belittles his neighbor lacks sense,
But a man of understanding remains silent.”
-Proverbs 11:12

In the last post we looked at the question: “How can I be more mature when I talk to people online?”

The answer in summary—Don’t make it personal, painful, demanding, or rude. Today the first point—Don’t make it personal.

Forums are for critiquing thoughts, not thinkers.

The Most Powerful Question

Have you ever had an experience of “Why didn’t I think of that before?” You’re struggling to solve a problem and suddenly you stumble into the obvious answer. You say, “How did this not occur to me?”

Often, when you’re stuck and you can’t think of the right answer, it’s because you’ve skipped a step. You need to work first on asking the right kind of question.

How To Give a Perfect Answer Pt. 3

“Don’t Make It Painful”

There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts,
But the tongue of the wise brings healing.
-Proverbs 12:18

An online discussion is like a party or a game. People come because they want to have fun, grow, and learn about others. It takes courage to put oneself out there. It is a risk to one’s pride. That is the cost of playing.

Try to keep the entry cost low.

Otherwise people won’t want to play. Your words will either bring people in or push them out. If you want your ideas to be heard, you can’t push people away.

The Winsome Gestapo

In discussing events and ideas, I’ve found that some people don’t work at all to bridle their tongues.

But other people work hard to put a bridle on anyone ELSE’s tongue that they disagree with (often by the method of quickly jumping to tone policing).

James shows us the right way. We bridle our OWN tongues: