“Don’t Make It Rude”
When words are many, transgression is not lacking,
But whoever restrains his lips is prudent.
-Proverbs 10:19
This is the last of five posts asking, “How can I be more mature when I talk to people online?”
Abraham Lincoln teaches us about maturity and immaturity in communication.
“Don’t Make It Demanding”
A fool gives full vent to his spirit,
But a wise man quietly holds it back.
-Proverbs 29:11
An immature person makes too many demands on others.
In a forum there are several things I find too demanding. You may have a different opinion. It depends on the context and the relationship. But if you think you may be too demanding—ask.
“Don’t Make It Painful”
There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts,
But the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
-Proverbs 12:18
An online discussion is like a party or a game. People come because they want to have fun, grow, and learn about others. It takes courage to put oneself out there. It is a risk to one’s pride. That is the cost of playing.
Try to keep the entry cost low.
Otherwise people won’t want to play. Your words will either bring people in or push them out. If you want your ideas to be heard, you can’t push people away.
“Don’t Make It Personal”
Whoever belittles his neighbor lacks sense,
But a man of understanding remains silent.”
-Proverbs 11:12
In the last post we looked at the question: “How can I be more mature when I talk to people online?”
The answer in summary—Don’t make it personal, painful, demanding, or rude. Today the first point—Don’t make it personal.
Forums are for critiquing thoughts, not thinkers.
“4 Ways to Be Mature on Social Media”
The tongue of the righteous is choice silver;
The heart of the wicked is of little worth.”
-Proverbs 10:20
How do you give a perfect answer?
An answer that is right and worthy? This 5-part series explores how to communicate wisely on social media.
